My friend handed my other friend the shower invitation right in front of me, with no explanation to me. This seemed deliberately designed to be hurtful.

Dear Eric: I have a good friend with whom I get together maybe twice a month or so. We disagree politically, sometimes passionately, but always end our conversation by telling each other that we are still friends and still love and respect each other.

A few months ago, her daughter got engaged, and when my friend shared this news, she said that, of course, I would be invited. Whenever we met up, I would always ask about the wedding plans, and we would talk at great length about this.